World MS Day is soon approaching on May 25, 2016. I found online some very inspiring stories from MS patients all over the world. Some very powerful words resonated with me from a fellow MSkuteer named Abdelmaseeh from Egypt.
He says “We are examples of how people are living with MS. We are people on crutches, people in wheelchairs and we’re are all living and working. Look at how beautiful life is. The world doesn’t end because we have MS. We show people how they can continue to live with MS. Even though MS has made me use two canes when I walk, it has not killed the love inside me for life and for people, and it has not made me give up. MS doesn’t stop me from seeing the beauty in life.”
I encourage you to go read some of these short stories on here because it helps me when I loose hope to find my way and know I am not alone on this journey http://worldmsday.org/stories/
Sometimes we are having a bad day and it may be hard to find the positive things in our life. It’s hard sometimes (I know trust me) but I try to be mindful of the good things to help me to not get sucked into that dark, black hole of depression and despair. I am just trying to get through these kinds of days in survival mode so I can get through the day unscathed.
Whenever I am feeling at a low point I always try to remind myself the alternative that I could have it a lot worse and then I remember it’s not so bad and I will get through this bad day. I also know that on low days like this after I get my kids to bed I then go to bed early too because everything seems to not be so bad after a good nights sleep.
Until next month,
For any of you who don’t know, this is an MRI machine…it is basically a giant loud box that we slide into after we lay on that padded part and our head is gently (but firmly) clamped down so that we can’t move it. Sometimes we get an IV attached too for various reasons involving contrast and probably other reasons I don’t know off the top of my head. Once all that has happened, the whole part we are laying on slides into that hole, a kind of dark cave withing the machine, where we stay for as long as they require to get the images they need. We spend anywhere from about 20 minutes to more than an hour in there holding as still as we possibly can.
My kids, are finally at an age I have times that they are in school, and so I can schedule MRI’s to happen at those times. It was not always like that though, for example when I was a single mom and my daughter was a baby, I did not have time like that. Except for the times when I was working and she was in daycare, of course I couldn’t really go get an MRI then because I had to be at work!
I am curious to know what everyone else has figured out. For me, I mostly didn’t get MRI’s when I had young kids, sometimes I did but I recall it being pretty stressful to get someone to watch my little one(s) while I spent time in the tube. I am very fortunate to have supportive family via marriage, though I know that is never a guarantee.
Do you have family support? Daycare? Babysitters? Has it worked for you? Did you try to get help from any MS related organizations?
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As a parent, you work had to protect your children and give them a childhood free from the challenges and responsibilities that come from adulthood until it becomes time -preferably when they turn 18 and leave the home. But for me, I never thought the tables would turn before I reached my 35th birthday with the diagnosis of my MS.
My life story may be long and complicated, but the real hero of my story has been my daughter, Becky. I never realized how important she would become to me, not only as a friend but as a caregiver to me and her brothers. As a child she witnessed me being abused by my ex husband, she saw me struggle as a single mom that was homeless with 2 young children while trying to get back on my feet. Then I received my diagnosis 2 years ago, and she was the one who came to the rescue to help me when I had a husband who was dealing with his own demons. She cooks, cleans, manages to keep straight A’s and prepare for high school next year while keeping up with her 3 brothers -2 have ADHD and require constant supervision. From the very beginning I chose to be honest and open about my diagnoses. She went with me to pharmaceutical dinners, I provided her books from the NMSS that were geared towards teenagers to help her understand what I was going through and how it would affect her. She has had the hard task of explaining to her friends why she can’t hang out with them sometimes or why she has more responsibilities then they do. Never once has she complained how hard her life is. I have moments of guilt with her doing so much for me, but I love her and give her more freedoms as reward for her hard work. I’ve had a long talk with my daughter about her life and learned the hard truth that my life has been MS first and family second. My own daughter felt unable to tell me how she felt and be selfish with her life because mom has always come first.
MS is part of my life but it doesn’t have to be a us priority. We need to never forget that our children are “living” with MS too. They may be hiding their true feelings because they think we are too tired and don’t have time to listen to them. Take time to have mommy and me time. Do something special for your younger caregiver to show that they are loved and appreciated. <3
Hi- I am a Virgin Blogger- this is my first BLOG (post)!
I am a mum with MS, & wrote a book last year about life ‘Laugh or You’ll Cry’ a kindle read on Amazon.
Many thanks, Sue
“For most mothers, keeping up with the washing, the mess and the irrepressible energy of two young boys is a challenge in itself. But when Sue Askin’s eldest son was diagnosed with autism, only to be followed by her own diagnosis of MS the next year, the challenge became ever so slightly harder…
Told in her own upbeat words, this is the heart-warming and funny account of one woman’s determination to do the best for her child, whilst learning to cope with her own diagnosis without any fuss.
Packed with funny anecdotes and familiar challenges to which all families will relate, you’ll be uplifted and inspired as much as you’ll be smiling.”
Note from Kristin: I’m so happy to see a mom tell her story! Please check it out and let me know if you have your story out there to share as well. Sue thank you for writing this your journey is inspirational!!
When you are diagnosed with a chronic illness like MS, a lot of things change after. If you think your life won’t change you are in denial because it does at some point. Some friends you tell about your diagnosis are there for you no matter what and provide you unconditional support. You know the kind of friend where it doesn’t matter how much time has gone by when you talk or get together it feels like you never were apart when you see each other again. Others unfortunately avoid you after you are diagnosed like the plaque or they slowly treat you different over time. Even people who were friends for awhile before you got diagnosed disappear or don’t want to keep in touch or return your phone calls anymore. At first I used to wonder why they would do this to me or beat myself up worrying if I did something wrong. This has happened to me as I’m sure it has to many of my fellow MSkuteers but this has shown me that its more about the quality of my friends for me now than it is about the quantity. I was once told you can always count your true friends on one hand. This is still true for me today. I have had friends come and go in my life but the closest ones to me in my life I can always count on. I know these chosen few I can count on my one hand who are always there if I need to pick the phone up to talk. I have always taken it personally at first when a friend decides not to be a friend anymore. Why do some friends leave us? It’s not like they can catch MS from us. Do they think for a second that we wanted to get diagnosed with such a nasty MonSter? I might be physically different than I was before but I am still the same person inside. When this happens we wonder why we said anything at all to them about our MS. If they knew us well enough and tried to understand our chronic illness they would know we have good days and bad days like anyone else. It is awful if I have made plans and I end up not well that day so then have to cancel but its not like I wanted to cancel its just that I knew my body wasn’t up to going out. If I know I have something I am going out to coming up I have to prepare and get my rest many days in advance. I know the average person might not have to do this but we with this MonSter do. I mean the energy it takes to get ready from having a warm shower, to doing your hair & make-up to getting dressed takes a lot out of us in terms of physical exertion. It’s like I am all dolled up ready to go out and I have no more energy left to actually go out sometimes. My close friends that know me well know this and don’t even second guess if I can’t go or can’t stay out too long.
Going through some good times and hard times with many friends (even some friends who also have MS) has also taught me the ones worth having around don’t make things hard on you. They just love you for being you and you don’t ever need to worry about their caring or loyalty because they are always there if you need them. These are the true friends you focus your time and energy on because lets face it life is too short and none of us know how long we have on this earth. Some friends may come in your life for a season and then go after awhile and that’s okay too. They came into our lives for a reason in the first place and were not meant to stick around for the long haul. So take the time when you can to show these close friends in your life how much they mean to you. These are the friends I truly cherish.
“A true friend reaches for your hand and touches your heart. ~ Author Unknown”
Until next month,
Lydia Emily, a mom with MS who has helped so many people with her artwork has a story that we all want to hear about. Fundraising for this project is going on now and has 21 days to go…they are just over 1/6 of the way to their funding goal and of course there are some awesome perks for this one as well:
Some of her artwork includes…
Lydia was diagnosed with primary-progressive MS three years ago, which means that her condition will only worsen. But this doesn’t dampen her rebellious spirit. Lydia rebels against the idea that because she’s been hit with hardship, she should give up.