“I hate your MS Mommy”


Well winter came much earlier than we wanted in Saskatchewan.  It snowed here so much we beat a snowfall record that was last made 100 years ago.  Today is another snowy day so I thought it was a good day to get caught up on my blog. 

Lately my children have noticed with the weather getting cooler outside how my pain gets worse with my nerves especially in my legs.  I had to search for my long johns the other day as I find keeping my legs warmer and layered up helps this nerve pain a bit.  I am also taking many hot Epsom salt baths to help with the leg spasms.  When it’s a cold day like today is I also don’t like to venture outside if I don’t absolutely have to.  Sometimes this means that we might have to miss an activity or an event the kids want to go to.  I know they understand if I have to cancel or reschedule if I am not feeling well that day but it doesn’t mean I don’t feel guilty about it every single time.   

When these types of situations happen I try to talk to my kids about their feelings because I don’t want them to keep their frustrations in.  My son has said to me before “Mommy I hate your MS”.  Which I reply “I hate it too”.  I think it’s important when our children are older and understand this topic to talk about it with them on how they are feeling.  If my children ever got to the point I felt they were holding back from me I would look into them being able to talk to another family member(with me not physically there) or the schools also usually have guidance councillors.  There are child Phycologists they could also talk to who specialize in children whose parents have an illness that your family doctor can refer them to.  It’s hard to know sometimes when we need to give our children the space or distance to process something or when we need to encourage them to talk to us.  I think not only with a Mom with MS this can be challenging but any mom with any illness or chronic pain issue would come across this challenge. I have tried developing the roots already and I know this takes time so my children can be open with me no matter what they need to talk to me about. Even if that turns out to be something I don’t want to hear.  

If any other moms out there have any good tips on how you handle these situations when your family plans have to change due to your MS flaring up feel free to comment below my Blog I would love to hear from you.

Stay warm this October wherever you are,



Choosing to Just Do It!!

Treading WaterI had an awkward experience this summer that felt like a good one to share. It’s isn’t really about the MS part of my life as a mom, (though my legs were partially numb!), but I think it is still relevant because sometimes we have a choice, if the situation/our bodies aren’t working/looking quite right, but good enough we can choose to just go for it, or sit out. Of course if we can’t we can’t, I’m not telling anyone to do what they can’t, but if we have a choice, go for it!!

“I was at a family camp, we go for a week every summer and my oldest daughter (on the right) absolutely LOVES to swim in the lagoon that they have there off of the sound. I knew this ahead of time and made a point to be sure to bring everyone’s swimming suit, including mine, particularly since I had recently…read more

This post originally appeared on KristinBennett.com under “Just Do It!!” and both post and picture are shared/linked here with permission.

Sensory Overload


A part of me has bittersweet feelings about my children heading back to school soon. Yes, I will miss seeing them a lot now during the days, sleeping in and staying up late but I defiantly will not miss the fighting, tattle-tailing and constant bickering. LOL

Is it just me getting too old or have you ever noticed that certain sounds annoy you?  I mean this is worse than annoying it literally drives you bonkers!! Have you ever had your kids fighting or playing loudly around you and the music or TV on in the background at the same time and you felt like you were going to spontaneously combust from all these sounds? How about this scenario – you are driving on a field trip and you have 6 kids in the back of your vehicle talking loudly and having several different conversations?  Does this drive you nuts and you wish you could run away from the noise?  Your brain is probably feeling like it is going through sensory overload and it can’t handle all these noises happening at once.

My youngest James who is 3 years old is going through this phase of screaming and I have wanted to crawl in a quiet dark closet to escape this when he does this. I used to just chalk this feeling up to me getting older and not being able to tolerate noisy situations anymore but when I read that this is actually a symptom we can suffer from our MS it made a lot more sense to me why this bothers me so much.

Do you think you have ever experienced sensory overload? Or Myoclonus as it’s called.  I never knew there was a name for what I was feeling or that it is was related to my MS.  Loud noises such as TV or radio, people talking loudly etc. this seem to really get me agitated some days and I could never figure out why until I read this link.



If you experience this what do you do? Do you have any good tips or suggestions that you have that help you to deal with sensory overload? Please share in the comments section I would like to learn more ways to deal with this.

Hope you are all enjoying the last bit of summer 🙂

Take Care,


What kind of vibe do you give off?


We all know too well how stressful, negative, maddening situations can cause many different reactions in our bodies physically that we then pay for tenfold afterwards.  I have been thinking a lot about how we as Moms with MS have to be more careful than say a Mom who doesn’t have a chronic illness to avoid stressful situations. I had a stressful situation recently happen to me that knowing now how it affected me physically afterwards I should have just left the scene when the non sense started and not said a thing.  It is hard for me to listen to silly immature rants from grown adults who should have known a better way to handle their issues than by releasing their frustrations in a public lynching. I am also not afraid to stand up for myself to say what needs to be said.  However in this case I should have put my health first over this “mother bully” performing her usual antics in our small town.  When it comes to doing the right thing vs doing the right thing for the sake of your health ~ keeping your health protected and safe should trump this every time!

 I have learned the importance of meditation and stress relieving techniques that I try to do often.  You not only need to do these when you need to decompress after a stressful situation but trying to do it every day can drastically reduce every day stressors in life.  Did you know it takes approximately 10 positive comments to override the emotional sting of just one negative comment? From now on I choose to be around others who give off a positive, happy, welcoming vibe because it’s so contagious and uplifting to be around others like this isn’t it?

 Why is a person’s vibe so important you ask?

 This is from the Brainwave Research Institute

 “Your vibe is your energy. The more positive vibes you radiate, the more you will attract the happy, successful, grounded and wonderful people who make life a real joy. People with good vibrations feel trustworthy, warm, inviting, open, friendly and confident. They’re the people that others want to associate with.

By contrast, people who complain, judge, criticize or blame automatically send out negative vibes that repel anyone who is not negative themselves.

A person’s vibe has a very powerful subconscious effect on people around them. You know how a single person can immediately change the mood in a group, right?
It’s because we unconsciously pick up on their energy as well as their nonverbal communication. This automatically alters our brain chemicals. Either the brain signals the production of feel-good chemicals like serotonin or oxytocin, or stress chemicals like adrenaline or cortisol.”

 No matter if you are in large city or a small town we can all name a few “nasty nellies”  who are constantly being bossy, trying to control others, and complaining they are everywhere unfortunatly but learning to distance yourself from this type of toxic person and being closer to the positive, happy people in your environment can make a huge difference in your life.

 “Surround yourself with positive souls and positive vibes come naturally. Your environment influences your experience. Make it a positive one” Author Expherience

Enjoy your month my fellow MSkuteers:)








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