What kind of vibe do you give off?

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We all know too well how stressful, negative, maddening situations can cause many different reactions in our bodies physically that we then pay for tenfold afterwards.  I have been thinking a lot about how we as Moms with MS have to be more careful than say a Mom who doesn’t have a chronic illness to avoid stressful situations. I had a stressful situation recently happen to me that knowing now how it affected me physically afterwards I should have just left the scene when the non sense started and not said a thing.  It is hard for me to listen to silly immature rants from grown adults who should have known a better way to handle their issues than by releasing their frustrations in a public lynching. I am also not afraid to stand up for myself to say what needs to be said.  However in this case I should have put my health first over this “mother bully” performing her usual antics in our small town.  When it comes to doing the right thing vs doing the right thing for the sake of your health ~ keeping your health protected and safe should trump this every time!

 I have learned the importance of meditation and stress relieving techniques that I try to do often.  You not only need to do these when you need to decompress after a stressful situation but trying to do it every day can drastically reduce every day stressors in life.  Did you know it takes approximately 10 positive comments to override the emotional sting of just one negative comment? From now on I choose to be around others who give off a positive, happy, welcoming vibe because it’s so contagious and uplifting to be around others like this isn’t it?

 Why is a person’s vibe so important you ask?

 This is from the Brainwave Research Institute

 “Your vibe is your energy. The more positive vibes you radiate, the more you will attract the happy, successful, grounded and wonderful people who make life a real joy. People with good vibrations feel trustworthy, warm, inviting, open, friendly and confident. They’re the people that others want to associate with.

By contrast, people who complain, judge, criticize or blame automatically send out negative vibes that repel anyone who is not negative themselves.

A person’s vibe has a very powerful subconscious effect on people around them. You know how a single person can immediately change the mood in a group, right?
It’s because we unconsciously pick up on their energy as well as their nonverbal communication. This automatically alters our brain chemicals. Either the brain signals the production of feel-good chemicals like serotonin or oxytocin, or stress chemicals like adrenaline or cortisol.”

 No matter if you are in large city or a small town we can all name a few “nasty nellies”  who are constantly being bossy, trying to control others, and complaining they are everywhere unfortunatly but learning to distance yourself from this type of toxic person and being closer to the positive, happy people in your environment can make a huge difference in your life.

 “Surround yourself with positive souls and positive vibes come naturally. Your environment influences your experience. Make it a positive one” Author Expherience

Enjoy your month my fellow MSkuteers:)

 Regards,

Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

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World MS Day May 25th

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World MS Day is soon approaching on May 25, 2016. I found online some very inspiring stories from MS patients all over the world.  Some very powerful words resonated with me from a fellow MSkuteer named Abdelmaseeh from Egypt.

He says “We are examples of how people are living with MS. We are people on crutches, people in wheelchairs and we’re are all living and working. Look at how beautiful life is. The world doesn’t end because we have MS. We show people how they can continue to live with MS. Even though MS has made me use two canes when I walk, it has not killed the love inside me for life and for people, and it has not made me give up. MS doesn’t stop me from seeing the beauty in life.”

I encourage you to go read some of these short stories on here because it helps me when I loose hope to find my way and know I am not alone on this journey http://worldmsday.org/stories/

Sometimes we are having a bad day and it may be hard to find the positive things in our life.  It’s hard sometimes (I know trust me) but I try to be mindful of the good things to help me to not get sucked into that dark, black hole of depression and despair. I am just trying to get through these kinds of days in survival mode so I can get through the day unscathed.

Whenever I am feeling at a low point I always try to remind myself the alternative that I could have it a lot worse and then I remember it’s not so bad and I will get through this bad day. I also know that on low days like this after I get my kids to bed I then go to bed early too because everything seems to not be so bad after a good nights sleep.

Until next month,

Michelle

Where Do Kids Go When Mom Needs MRI?

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For any of you who don’t know, this is an MRI machine…it is basically a giant loud box that we slide into after we lay on that padded part and our head is gently (but firmly) clamped down so that we can’t move it. Sometimes we get an IV attached too for various reasons involving contrast and probably other reasons I don’t know off the top of my head. Once all that has happened, the whole part we are laying on slides into that hole, a kind of dark cave withing the machine, where we stay for as long as they require to get the images they need. We spend anywhere from about 20 minutes to more than an hour in there holding as still as we possibly can.

My kids, are finally at an age I have times that they are in school, and so I can schedule MRI’s to happen at those times. It was not always like that though, for example when I was a single mom and my daughter was a baby, I did not have time like that. Except for the times when I was working and she was in daycare, of course I couldn’t really go get an MRI then because I had to be at work!

I am curious to know what everyone else has figured out. For me, I mostly didn’t get MRI’s when I had young kids, sometimes I did but I recall it being pretty stressful to get someone to watch my little one(s) while I spent time in the tube. I am very fortunate to have supportive family via marriage, though I know that is never a guarantee.

Do you have family support? Daycare? Babysitters? Has it worked for you? Did you try to get help from any MS related organizations?

Thank you for taking the time to let me know!! You can also send me a message if you want to share privately, you can comment and ask that it not be published and I will reach out to you. If you are member on the private site you can also login and comment there if you prefer as well.

My buddy, my pal, my friend.

As a parent, you work had to protect your children and give them a childhood free from the challenges and responsibilities that come from adulthood until it becomes time -preferably when they turn 18 and leave the home. But for me, I never thought the tables would turn before I reached my 35th birthday with the diagnosis of my MS.
My life story may be long and complicated, but the real hero of my story has been my daughter, Becky. I never realized how important she would become to me, not only as a 20160229_193909friend but as a caregiver to me and her brothers. As a child she witnessed me being abused by my ex husband, she saw me struggle as a single mom that was homeless with 2 young children while trying to get back on my feet. Then I received my diagnosis 2 years ago, and she was the one who came to the rescue to help me when I had a husband who was dealing with his own demons. She cooks, cleans, manages to keep straight A’s and prepare for high school next year while keeping up with her 3 brothers -2 have ADHD and require constant supervision. From the very beginning I chose to be honest and open about my diagnoses. She went with me to pharmaceutical dinners, I provided her books from the NMSS that were geared towards teenagers to help her understand what I was going through and how it would affect her. She has had the hard task of explaining to her friends why she can’t hang out with them sometimes or why she has more responsibilities then they do. Never once has she complained how hard her life is. I have moments of guilt with her doing so much for me, but I love her and give her more freedoms as reward for her hard work. I’ve had a long talk with my daughter about her life and learned the hard truth that my life has been MS first and family second. My own daughter felt unable to tell me how she felt and be selfish with her life because mom has always come first.
MS is part of my life but it doesn’t have to be a us priority. We need to never forget that our children are “living” with MS too. They may be hiding their true feelings because they think we are too tired and don’t have time to listen to them. Take time to have mommy and me time. Do something special for your younger caregiver to show that they are loved and appreciated. <3

Laugh or You’ll Cry- Mothers own story

81K0VwR9OXL._SL1500_Hi- I am a Virgin Blogger- this is my first BLOG (post)! 

I am a mum with MS, & wrote a book last year about life ‘Laugh or You’ll Cry’ a kindle read on Amazon.

Many thanks, Sue

“For most mothers, keeping up with the washing, the mess and the irrepressible energy of two young boys is a challenge in itself. But when Sue Askin’s eldest son was diagnosed with autism, only to be followed by her own diagnosis of MS the next year, the challenge became ever so slightly harder…

Told in her own upbeat words, this is the heart-warming and funny account of one woman’s determination to do the best for her child, whilst learning to cope with her own diagnosis without any fuss.

Packed with funny anecdotes and familiar challenges to which all families will relate, you’ll be uplifted and inspired as much as you’ll be smiling.”

Note from Kristin: I’m so happy to see a mom tell her story! Please check it out and let me know if you have your story out there to share as well. Sue thank you for writing this your journey is inspirational!!

-Kristin